Need More Confidence?

As a kid, I struggled with confidence. I was extremely shy and never wanted to partake in any activity that I thought I might fail at. My dad always told me to never say the word “can’t.” As an adult, I am now listening to his advice. I know he is happy about that.

Do you want to build your confidence?

• Try new things outside your comfort zone.

• Connect to the Divine through meditation and/or nature.

• Practice feeling grateful for what you have to offer the world.

• Become aware of when you say the word “can’t” and transform the statement to “I can if…”

• Surround yourself with people that inspire you.

• Take baby steps towards your goals.

• Talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how awesome you are.

• Be open to hearing constructive feedback from others and using that feedback to improve.

Try one of these ideas to focus on each week and see how your confidence level rises. Confidence doesn’t increase overnight and sometimes we feel really confident and the next day we don’t. It’s an ebb and flow, but you are still climbing the ladder of growth. Every hard day occurs to teach you something.

Shift your perceptions of your challenges being mistakes or failures into growth opportunities and feel yourself expand in the process!

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Subconscious Reprogramming

As young children we were given our subconscious beliefs through our experiences with our parents, friends, teachers, etc. This is an important part of everyone’s childhood. From these beliefs that were programmed into our subconscious comes our beliefs and behaviors. Do you find yourself attracting the same kind of people over and over? Do you keep getting stuck in the same kind of job? These are patterns that are playing out from your subconscious beliefs. Some examples of unwanted beliefs are “I am not deserving of a good man in my life.” or “I am always going to be fat.” or “I will never be a good mom.”

There are so many beliefs that we are holding in our subconscious that our affecting how we live every day!

Reprogramming our beliefs

As adults we are able to reprogram those beliefs that are affecting our lives in a negative way. This involves moving into a theta brain wave state and visualizing changes being made to your past. For example: If you had parents that always told you that the key to happiness is making money, and you don’t want that relationship with money anymore, you can get into a theta wave state and visualize your parents telling you and showing you something different. You can go back to your past and REWRITE it! It’s AMAZING! I know you are thinking “how could this happen?” Your brain and body do not know the difference between what you imagine and what you actually do in your outside reality. What you think about and imagine is what plays out in your reality, so get down and deep into your subconscious and plant some differnt seeds! This is what life is all about-becoming your authentic self with beliefs that you choose.

This is basically hypnosis…

Hypnosis is guided meditaiton where you are being guided to change a belief. Some people can go deep and quick and some people need consistent practice with it. This term “subconscious reprogramming” is used more often these days, because it explains what hypnosis does. YOU can do this YOURSELF! Yes, it helps to have someone, that is trained, to guide you, but I have found that when I create my own subconscious reprogramming meditations with the exact words, and visualizations I need, then I help myself get to where I want to be much faster.

Did I help clear up some confusion??

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Stop Trying To Do More Than Your Best!

For so long we have been taught the idea of “do your best.” We all have our own experiences of growing up and what we learned is our “best.” Were you conditioned to work so hard on projects, school, work, etc. that you can’t enjoy the process and the journey of getting to that perfect destination? My question for you to think about today is:

Are you working beyond your best and is it worth it?

Doing your best is going to change from day to day. If you are sick, your best might be just getting out of bed to shower. Some days your best is getting 3 things checked off on your long To Do List. Be kind to yourself and realize that doing your best does not mean working yourself so hard that you can’t enjoy the process of getting to the ending. If you are feeling exhausted and drained, you have gone beyond your best. Listen to what your body is telling you. If you push yourself too hard, your best will be an exhausted effort. Not all days are meant to be productive. Be kind to yourself, treat yourself with love and accept that your best does not mean perfection.

IF-THEN Thinking: Waiting for happiness

Have you noticed yourself thinking that something "needs to happen" before you can be happy?  If you are in relationship, you might have thought, "If he could just clean up after himself, then I'd be happy" or "If I could just have someone clean my house, then I'll be happy."  How about this one, "when I have more money, I'll by happier."  Do any of these sound familiar?  This is called conditional or IF-THEN thinking.

Most of us have had some version of conditional thinking in our minds.  When we are stuck in this waiting period, we are not enjoying the present moment and this can cause depression and anxiety. When I catch myself thinking these IF-THEN thoughts, it is usually because I have neglected my gratitude journal or have not had alone time to recharge.  Gratitude for the present moment and for whatever the future may bring is the cure to conditional thinking.  Make gratitude a daily occurrence.  Write down what you are thankful for.  Voice your gratitude aloud to your family and friends.  Every time you feel gratitude, you are helping yourself attract more things to be grateful for and you are not sitting in that endless waiting room for your number to be called.

Don't postpone your happiness for some future moment that may never happen and if it does happen, it will change, because nothing stays the same.   Change is always going to happen.  Nothing is permanent. 

Take some time today to notice your thoughts.  What is occupying your mind?  Do you want those thoughts there?  You have the power to change them!

Stepping out of the Comfort Zone

     When you have a dream and you receive a strong intuition to pursue that dream, you should listen and do not give up!  Do not let fear keep you in your comfort zone.  Sometimes fear can be just as strong as your intuition.  Take some time to meditate and become clear on what you are being guided to do.  Fear can mask who you are.  Courage is given to you when you need it and should not be ignored.  It is such an exhilarating feeling to let go of the fear and step out of your comfort zone.  

     If you fear people's reactions to your dream, don't tell them.   Let them see for themselves when you get there.  Some people can put more fear and doubt in your mind than you already have and that can be strong enough to stop you on your path to where your soul yearns to be. You, and only you, know what to do.  Stay strong in your beliefs.  If you let fear and doubt take over, then you will never feel the freedom of living your life for you. 

     Many of us change pathways throughout life.   It can be confusing when your dreams change on you.  You were lead to an amazing opportunity that you really wanted and felt lucky to have, but then you start getting messages that there is another place you need to be.    Another vision and desire is being spoken to you and there is something even better waiting for you!  The hurt, frustrations, and failures you have with each life event along your path are meant to help you grow and prepare you for your next step.   Eventually, the Divine will guide you to the perfect place, the perfect family and the perfect job for you.  Everything happens as it should.  Do not have any regrets.  Build on life lessons and be the amazing and perfect you!

     There have been many synchronicities that have lead me to where I am headed. I know that there is more than Dream Beautiful.  I feel this is leading me to something even grander. I am listening to my higher self and moving forward to what awaits me.  This gives me pure joy.   Join me on my journey as I reflect on my insights and inspirations from living this life in this moment.

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

--Neal Donald Walsch